TheBoost said:
Warbler said:
I did have an account at okcupid. never got me anywhere. Anyway, right now is not the time. I need to lose weight and get more money.
The second time I fell in love I was living in my car.
When my wife deemed to marry me, i was the chunkiest I'd ever been and every cent I made went to school. Her wedding ring was $80.
If I might presume to guess, you don't feel confident about yourself because you're concerned about wallets and waistlines.
Sure there are women that wont dig you. There are some women who wont dig you if you're an adonis with a fancy car. But speaking as a guy that at best can be described as moderately handsome, more women like confidence than like 6-pack abs. Try to feel better about yourself, youre a human being, not a consumer product, and thats what women respond to.
This is all very true.
I think it is getting even harder in our modern times. We've objectified women for so long, you'd like to think progress would mean we'd grow and stop seeing them simply as sexual objects. Sadly, I think as time goes on it is becoming more and more acceptable to objectify them, and in turn it is also becoming more and more acceptable to objectify men. Having discussions with women about Magic Mike has left icky feelings in my stomach. What is good for the goose is good for the gander, but I am of the school of thought that feels strongly that we should look beyond body image.
I don't want to have to feel like I need to look like a male super model in order to impress women, but the reality is, I don't. I am currently a good twenty pounds over weight, my hairline is beginning to forsaking me, and I am pretty close to broke most of the time these days. But still, I'd been able to manage to get a date pretty much anytime I've been in the mood for one, because I am not afraid to put myself on the line. TheBoost is right, confidence (even pretend confidence) as well as a good personality or a good heart will get you a lot farther than good looks and money.
You and I have interacted with each other a lot on these boards, as well and through email and PM, you're a really good guy and some woman would be very lucky to have you. It would be a shame for some lady to be deprived of that because you are too down on yourself to go out and find her. There are a lot of really worthless men out there, and you are not one of them. You owe it to woman kind to put yourself on the market. ;)
No, not every woman is going to flock to you and want to fight over you. But I promise, eventually, you'll come across someone smart enough realize she is looking at someone very worthwhile.