Dodecathlon (12-12-12) — Page 2

Warbler said:

I wish I had a true love : (

Go get her Warb.

I wish it were that simple.    

Yeah, we all know that you get true love with a giant wang.*

Bingowings said:

Warbler said:

I wish I had a true love : (

Go get her Warb.

Seriously, go get her!

sean wookie said:

The thing is I have a girlfriend. I'm talking to her right now on Skype. I met her on OKCupid.

PSYCHO_DAYV said:

THAT'S WHERE I MET MY GIRLFRIEND, TOO.

And I too am currently in an awesome relationship with a girl I met on OKCupid.

I think dating sites are lame, and felt like they were for people who couldn't get dates in real life. After ranting to a close female friend of mine about how I'm sick of only finding sort term flings and wish I could find someone who held my interest and I actually just really enjoyed spending time with, she forced me to make an OKCupid profile. Turns out that is how she met her husband (i.e. the bastard who stole her away from me because I didn't want her and who actually sounds ridiculously awesome, though I've never met him. It's never super awesome when the guy a girl rebounds from you on ends up being unbelievable cool and totally whisks her away and makes her far happier than you have ever seen her. But so goes my life).

It took almost a year after she first told me to make the profile before she finally convinced me to do it. I got a lot of interesting dates out of it, most of which were absolutely awful and confirmed my feelings about dating sites being for people who can't hack it socially in real life, but there were a few really cool ones that I had a lot of fun with, and one in particular who is freaking perfect.

There is no excuse for being lonely in this day and age, there are simply too many other sad and lonely people out there. It is all a matter of finding them. And to do that, you have to put yourself out there. Be that via bars, coffee shops, Church singles events, book clubs (met a really great girl at a book club once!), or online dating. You're not just going to bump into them while walking from your home to your car. Stop being lonely and make some other people a little less lonely too. Even bad dates can be a lot of fun, and they give you cool stories to tell your friends later.

I did have an account at okcupid.  never got me anywhere.  Anyway,  right now is not the time.   I need to lose weight and get more money. 

Warbler said:

I did have an account at okcupid.  never got me anywhere.  Anyway,  right now is not the time.   I need to lose weight and get more money. 

So do I. There is always something. If we all waited for everything to be perfect, we'd all be alone. I kind of like having someone to be poor and starving with, and to go for long brisk walks with.

Warbler said:

I did have an account at okcupid.  never got me anywhere.  Anyway,  right now is not the time.   I need to lose weight and get more money. 

The second time I fell in love I was living in my car. 

When my wife deemed to marry me, i was the chunkiest I'd ever been and every cent I made went to school. Her wedding ring was $80. 

If I might presume to guess, you don't feel confident about yourself because you're concerned about wallets and waistlines. 

Sure there are women that wont dig you. There are some women who wont dig you if you're an adonis with a fancy car. But speaking as a guy that at best can be described as moderately handsome, more women like confidence than like 6-pack abs. Try to feel better about yourself, youre a human being, not a consumer product, and thats what women respond to. 

compyislife said:

How did the office party go? 12 bags of jelly beans would have been reasonable...

Hey, this thread is now about online dating.

TheBoost said:

Warbler said:

I did have an account at okcupid.  never got me anywhere.  Anyway,  right now is not the time.   I need to lose weight and get more money. 

The second time I fell in love I was living in my car. 

When my wife deemed to marry me, i was the chunkiest I'd ever been and every cent I made went to school. Her wedding ring was $80. 

If I might presume to guess, you don't feel confident about yourself because you're concerned about wallets and waistlines. 

Sure there are women that wont dig you. There are some women who wont dig you if you're an adonis with a fancy car. But speaking as a guy that at best can be described as moderately handsome, more women like confidence than like 6-pack abs. Try to feel better about yourself, youre a human being, not a consumer product, and thats what women respond to. 

This is all very true.

I think it is getting even harder in our modern times. We've objectified women for so long, you'd like to think progress would mean we'd grow and stop seeing them simply as sexual objects. Sadly, I think as time goes on it is becoming more and more acceptable to objectify them, and in turn it is also becoming more and more acceptable to objectify men. Having discussions with women about Magic Mike has left icky feelings in my stomach. What is good for the goose is good for the gander, but I am of the school of thought that feels strongly that we should look beyond body image.

I don't want to have to feel like I need to look like a male super model in order to impress women, but the reality is, I don't. I am currently a good twenty pounds over weight, my hairline is beginning to forsaking me, and I am pretty close to broke most of the time these days. But still, I'd been able to manage to get a date pretty much anytime I've been in the mood for one, because I am not afraid to put myself on the line. TheBoost is right, confidence (even pretend confidence) as well as a good personality or a good heart will get you a lot farther than good looks and money.

You and I have interacted with each other a lot on these boards, as well and through email and PM, you're a really good guy and some woman would be very lucky to have you. It would be a shame for some lady to be deprived of that because you are too down on yourself to go out and find her. There are a lot of really worthless men out there, and you are not one of them. You owe it to woman kind to put yourself on the market. ;)

No, not every woman is going to flock to you and want to fight over you. But I promise, eventually, you'll come across someone smart enough realize she is looking at someone very worthwhile.

I am much more than 20 pounds overweight,  its more like 100 pounds overweight with me.  My hairline has also forsaken me.   I don' know how you just go out and get a date.  That seems impossible to me.   But I will consider what you've said.  Thanks. 

TV's Frink said:

Hey, this thread is now about online dating.

*twirls mustache*

Warbler said:

I am much more than 20 pounds overweight,  its more like 100 pounds overweight with me.  My hairline has also forsaken me.   I don' know how you just go out and get a date.  That seems impossible to me.   But I will consider what you've said.  Thanks. 

100 sounds like a lot but that's only about 45kg or so, right? That seems manageable. If you wanna shed fast you'll need a hardcore workout but if you've got time to spare I recommend jogging. It definitely works.

I only do it from time to time but I definitely lose weight when I do. It wont really cost you anything and if you are body conscious then you can jog around your neighbourhood after dark - it should be light enough to see where you are going yet dark enough that people wont stare at you.

In the next town over there's a  horse trotting track, in the cooler months I sometimes go with a friend and jog around that a few times. Although I did trip on a horse shoe one night..

You just need to stay hydrated and don't push yourself too hard too fast, start light and work your way up - you'll most likely need to rub down with a heat gel at least the first few times so your muscles don't ache.

oh and make sure you do some stretches to warm up and cool down.

The key thing is being motivated and the best thing for that is to try stick to a routine. set aside specific days and times for working out /. exercising, otherwise it is too easy to just let it slide and wind up watching tv instead.

A good routine for me is going out on a wednesday night around 8pm, meet up with friends, warm up, walk for a bit, jog a few kilometers, walk for a bit, cool down, load up on things like oats and yoghurt, watch an episode of something like battlestar galactica.

It's a lot more fun with others, see if you can convince anyone to join you?

I'm not saying it is easy but if you stick with it you will see results, I am pretty active but I'm a little overweight because I snack too often and skip proper breakfasts most days.

This thread is now about good advice for Warb.

I hope you heed it Warb, it really is all good advice.

CP3S said:

I am currently a good twenty pounds over weight, my hairline is beginning to forsaking me, and I am pretty close to broke most of the time these days...

WOOF!

Waylon who's the bear?