Warbler said:

I did have an account at okcupid. never got me anywhere. Anyway, right now is not the time. I need to lose weight and get more money.

The second time I fell in love I was living in my car.

When my wife deemed to marry me, i was the chunkiest I'd ever been and every cent I made went to school. Her wedding ring was $80.

If I might presume to guess, you don't feel confident about yourself because you're concerned about wallets and waistlines.

Sure there are women that wont dig you. There are some women who wont dig you if you're an adonis with a fancy car. But speaking as a guy that at best can be described as moderately handsome, more women like confidence than like 6-pack abs. Try to feel better about yourself, youre a human being, not a consumer product, and thats what women respond to.