D_E speaks truth. A lot of stuff can be done anonymously. Sometimes you have to put yourself in the position of being the villain in order to do the right thing. The people who actually matter will come around eventually, even if they're angry at first.
The part about victims is also true. The whole stereotype of a woman going back to the guy who beats her because "he's so sweet when he's not bashing my face in" is there for a reason; it's shitty, but it happens over and over and retraumatizes everyone involved. You can tell she's not filing the restraining orders for the "right" reasons, because she's prioritizing the cheatings (which she likely blames the other women for) over the beatings (which she likely sees as her fault); I'm inferring a bit there, but in my experience...
Either way, the kids are going to need so much therapy. I can just see these poor kids growing up to do just what's happening now to their own kids, and then those kids doing it to their kids... it's incredible how perfectly these situations mirror one another from generation to generation, and how it's such an unconscious thing that it's almost "fated" to happen (unless one of the kids is imbued with an incredible sense of insight and breaks the cycle); the boy grow up to be an abuser of people and substances in an attempt to regulate the emotions he has no control over, and the girls grow up to seek men like that on a subconscious level, because that's the only male figure they've ever known.
Regardless, they need the counselling now, while we can still feel sorry for them, before they're old enough to get the point where they become the problem like their parents are (no offense Warbs).
I'm not saying this to pressure Warbs or anything, just continuing the conversation because it's something I'm incredibly passionate about. This is a delicate situation, and Warbs has to do what he thinks is the right thing to do.
As an aside: This is why people need to take advantage of birth control.
Birth control, birth control, birth control. Please.
Especially if you have the presence of mind to realize you're screwed up. Having kids isn't something you do willy-nilly and let come what may; having kids is a huge responsibility, because you are not only altering your future, but the future of your children, and the future of people that they come into contact with. If you abuse your kids, you're effectively abusing their kids, and their significant others.
This isn't stuff you mess with, so you better be one hundred percent goddamn sure you're ready to have kids before you go fucking around without protection. I wanna strike people who give that "well we've been doing it without protection for like three months now and she hasn't gotten pregnant yet" because it's gonna fucking happen at some point. Birth control is cheap; a box of condoms or the pill/morning after pill* is nothing compared to the price of an abortion, or the cost of birthing a child, or adoption costs, or raising that child.
Factor in the cost to society of the kid being raised by the 17 year-old girl who brings home some stoner asshole 25 year old dude with no job who beats her and has three other girls knocked up on the side and all involved in that cycle of shit and the condoms are basically free in comparison. Yeah, sometimes you get the guy who cures cancer out of this shitpile, but I don't want to pay for the hundred thousand other kids who will be in and out of jail for hitting cops and beating someone else's daughters and raising more of this useless ilk just to get that one gem.
*I also wish people would get it through their heads that the morning after pill is not an abortion pill. All it is, is just a higher dosage of the normal pill and works the exact same way; by impairing implantation, not by interfering with an existing pregnancy. We need to be able to get it over the counter everywhere, and we need to educate people about all of this so we can stop this bullshit cycle of abusers pumping out kids that they'll in turn abuse.