Bingowings said:

When the event that triggered your outburst happened what attempt was made to justify it (prompting your 'extreme' false excuses)?

Their home wasn't nuked by a serial rapist but what did they tell you really happened?

Nothing -- he didn't say anything about his motivations to me. Considering that he's known to do this often, I don't expect that anything extraordinary happened to him.

I listed those extreme examples to emphasize how strongly I feel about this particular issue.