TheBoost said:
You're a gay?
I though all those times you said 'partner' you were a cop?!
Well let me ask...
I was once deeply shocked to learn that in the black community, there are levels of discrimination against other blacks based on skin tone and hair. Is there anything like that in the gay world? Like... I'm MORE gay than you, or Lesbians who hate gay men... or gay men with mustaches who hate large gay men with bear claw tattoos?
I can't remember referring to my better half as my partner but I must have done at some point because I don't think he has ever been a boy.
Yes there is definitely a lot of that thing going on.
I have a friend who for as long as I have known her has been mostly lesbian and has a very large circle of gay and lesbian friends and she met a chap who was presumably mostly gay and yet they fell head over hills in love with each other and got married and have two lovely girls.
For many people this came as a bit of a surprise but they were happy for them both however a few people were cynical about it or felt betrayed by their relationship which seem utterly daft to me.
I guess if you have had to go through the trial of deflating your parent's dreams of genetic continuance having a couple in your sphere who revert to the social norm could be problematic if you are overly hung up about such things, the trick is not to be overly hung up about such things.
There is also a nasty sectarian side to gay life.
You find people who fit into tribes and dress the same way, like the same music etc
People from one group can be very down on people from another group and only pair up with the same kind of people but then you also find people from one group who are sexually driven towards people from another group exclusively.
It's another thing I can't really get my head around because I've never really been one for going to night clubs and wearing a secret gay identity.
I've also encountered hostility between gays and transgendered and transsexual people.
The one thing that a certain group of gay bar denizens dread is the coming of the great pool table.
It's an observable fact that as soon as a mostly male gay bar installs a pool table the place fills up with very butch lesbians and the men go elsewhere.
When I was young I was shocked to hear a gay man working in a video rental store throwing racial abuse at his customers.
People are people but when you have been the victim of abuse you'd think the last thing you'd do is lay abuse on someone else.