Sincere condolences Adywan.
Once Lennon said that life's what happens when you're busy making other plans. Without any doubt, you knew when to stop "making other plans" and focus on what matters, as john would say. And this makes me glad indeed across the ocean, and I don't even know you; so be sure of this, it made your father both glad and proud to have you aside his last days.
It speaks of you as a sensitive, caring, and loving guy.
We won't lose sleep if ESB:R is out december 2011 or may 2012, or even if it doesn't ever come out. However, I'd be (and I think I could say we'd be) ashamed of ourselves if by our fault you felt any pressure to finish the edit in time in spite of your personal and familiar grief.
So take your time, and please, feel free of whatever bargain we might signify for you, in every way and sense.
Best wishes from Argentina, for you and your family; and my deepest condolences.