Bingowings said:
As an outsider on the biological reproduction front I have noticed that some children are living saints and others are demons from hell and often the quality of and effort put into parenting makes very little visible difference.
Not that I'm suggesting that parents should go out their way to be utter gits or that your efforts Boostdad are a waste of time but it is possible that your email pal may be, through no fault of her own, just blessed with a bit more of a child challenge than even your methodical parental routine could contain.
I don't disagree, and never claim to be any sort of parent expert (I have one kid, what the hell do I know?) which is why I never offer advice unsolicited.
It's the specifically asking for advice and flippant dismissal that got my gout.