Warbler said:

So you would only blame yourself and not place any blame at all on the person that conned you???

You live to learn, not to stagnate. How many times you've been releasing your anger because you felt attacked and then apologyse for it since I read you !... One day you'll have enough, believe me. Let's just watch ourselves.

... I'd prefer rushing into this and helping out and find out later that it was fraud, than not help and find out later that that he died.

If you can take care and love the people really close you that much already, you can allow yourself those kinds of extras of course... You then don' t need your actual signature anymore !