Gaffer Tape said:
For the most part, my sentiments lie in line with C3PX and A B C, although I'm not sure if I could say them with the kind of necessary force that C3PX did. There were times I was reading and wondering if he went too far, but sometimes I realize someone needs to not have any pulled punches.
I myself am in a rather precarious situation at the moment, and have to be forceful with myself. Perhaps I unfairly carried some of that over and laid in on Warb.
Warb, I had only heard about that poll at Dayv's place from Ferris, as I had not logged in for a good long while, and honestly, after you were banned, being one of the members there I enjoyed interacting with the most, I never bothered going back. I understood that poll to be of a very different nature than it was. I thought that everyone had gotten tired of you and another forum member (who I actually also quite liked) going at it all the time, so Dayv decided one of you needed to go and put it up for a vote. Ferris sent me a PM after it happened expressing how dissapointed he was that you where kicked, because like me, he too really enjoyed interacting with you.
Now from reading your post, I realized it was self inflicted, even if Dayv did screw it up and make it in a different format than you asked him to, you still asked him to offer up the option of everyone electing to ban you. Why do you do that kind of shit? It feels like you are looking for affirmation that you are wanted. It is a public forum, you don't have to do that. There will always be people who like you and people who don't. That is just the way it is. As long as you have one single friend around who enjoys you being here (or posting in certain threads) what else matters?
Just that fact that guys like myself, ABC, Gaffer, (hell, you even got Dayv to come out of the shadows), Bingowings, and other who have posted more than just a few sentences or negative comments ought to clearly show that you matter here. But just keep in mind, pulling needy shit and constantly seeking reaffirmation is a good way to push people away. A guy/girl who constantly has to ask their girlfriend/boyfriend if they love them is a good candidate for a dumping, because no one wants to feel their words and affection constantly doubted. Same thing goes for a friend who always has to ask, "we're good friends, right?" "you like hanging out with me, right?" Those kinds of demands can get exhusting, and someone who would have otherwised really enjoyed the company of that person may end up deciding that it simply isn't worth all the extra effort in order to be their friend. Low maintenance people are great. High maintenance people can be a chore. Just some practical advice.