xhonzi said:
I'm not on his yet. I usually don't say much to him because I feel there is little point trying to convince him that he's in the wrong. But he and I got into it a little in one of my threads. I'm tempted to put him on ignore, but I do think he has valid opinions. Even though he's usually a jerk whilst giving them.
I don't think stating things with feeling or defending one's views equate with being a jerk. We got into it on that thread because we had very different ideas of what that thread was supposed to be. It seemed to me that you were changing the topic and purpose of the thread halfway through. Of course, to you it just seemed like I was wrecking your thread. Whereas I felt I was keeping within bounds of the sort of discussion the thread allowed. You felt the thread's discussion assumed acceptance of certain points, whereas I saw no such thing. I was sorry to get into conflict with you, because you had seemed one of the more civilized people here. As a result of that, I tried to be restrained when pointing out how I felt you'd crossed a line. I felt, and I continue to feel, that making critical personal comments about a poster is wrong except if you're doing it to somebody who's attacked you in some way. But I'm sorry if I unintentionally fucked up your thread.
I usually don't say much to him because I feel there is little point trying to convince him that he's in the wrong.
By in the wrong do you mean mistaken in views? Like about Star Wars or films or something? Because people certainly seem to feel it's ok to tell me my views are mistaken (and they're right in that, there's nothing wrong with telling anybody their views are mistaken), but I find that some people find it terribly offensive if I return the favor and try to tell somebody else their view is mistaken by debating with their reasoning. Also, I find that some people seem to find it offensive if I defend my views. If somebody comes along and tries to prove my view is mistaken and I respond by trying to prove their view is mistaken and that mine is in fact not mistaken, somehow what they do is considered ok but what I do is not.