Vaderisnothayden said:

Violence against people of any gender is a serious business. It doesn't become suddenly worse or better based on the gender of the victim. People of both genders are human beings and have the same right not to be subjected to violence. The idea that violence against women is worse than violence against men is rooted in old-fashioned sexist attitudes toward women. Basically this traditional view of women as these helpless little people who can't stand up for themselves and can't do things for themselves and need to be protected by men and treated like pieces of delicate china. It's tied to a whole load of other stupid attitudes about women. It's very disempowering for women when attitudes like that are around the place.

I think you misunderstood what I meant, I don't look at any particular violence more disturbing then another. Some men think that hitting a women isn't a bad thing, ala Sean Connery's interview many years ago with Barbara Walters where he pretty much said you need to smack a women around sometimes if they get out of line. Because he was Sean Connery, he got away with it at the time, but my point is that some guys go by this rationale, and I was brought up the exact opposite way.