DarkFather said:
Continue escalating kinosthetics. If you neglect to make physical contact often, then the first kiss will be uncomfortable for both of you. I recommend squeezing the nape of her neck, and sliding a palm over the small of her back. Both of these areas of the body are bundles of nerves that are rarely touched, thus she will become naturally more excited.

Totally true. Are you American? I found dating in America harder, because there was less touching in the culture. In Mexico and England I found it easier to initiate smooching, because we'd already made contact casually dozens of time. This isn't about manipulation, it's about comfort zones between two people. Touching hands on a tabletop is an important first step.

Sean Wookie, if you want it to be a 'date' you MAKE it a date. If she doesn't, she'll let you know with certain social cues. If she was showing cleavage, 10 will get you 20 it was a date, and you have tacit permission to up it a notch if she goes out with you again.