Maybe you'd find more grey Force cults emerging (Sidi and Jeth) who get married take care of their parents, don't indoctrinate children, don't seek high office and stay out of politics, acknowledge their passions but don't let them dominate their lives and conscientiously refrain from fighting in wars (basically Force chaplains and mystic medics).

My final word on Jedi and revenge, if the Jedi are beyond such things explain Obi-wan's wrath fueled attack on Darth Maul or Anakin's clearly vengeful charge at Count Dooku?

As I said before a good arguement could be made for the Jedi being above revenge before ROTJ and the PT, afterwards it becomes a position less easy to defend.