OK, check it out. Re-edit the Conference Room. Ackbar already never says that the fighters attempt to leave after attempting to knock out the main reactor. "General Calrissian has volunteered to lead the attack". Have Lando look not so cocky (or leave it, he's awesome). Cut straight to Ackbar handing off the briefing to General Madine, cutting out Han's "Good luck. You're gonna need it."

I'm not sure how to re-edit the "I want you to take her" scene in the hanger bay. I'd want to keep the "funny feeling", but if he just sent Lando on an obvious suicide mission, he would know he'd never see either of them again.

Having it be a suicide mission makes sense when Lando sends the rest of the fighters to the surface. Wedge is the problem here. It's pretty much unanimus to keep him alive. So how about this:

Insert Wedge's "I'm already on my way out" instead of "Copy, Gold Leader" when Lando sends them to the surface. Have Wedge's ship leave last so we can keep the shot of him exiting the DS and flying towards the fleet shortly before Lando makes it into the main area (A). Matte out Wedge's ship for the rest of the sequence, as Lando silently heads towards his doom (B). From there cut to the Falcon firing (C) and the shot of the thing Lando shoots (D). Either end with E or F, depending on if you want to keep the shot of the power thing falling.

Death Star explodes. Lando sacrifices himself.

As for Luke piloting out the shuttle as the hanger explodes behind him? Screw it. Leave some doubt that he's alive so Leia's line about knowing he's alive is a revelation, and not her telling the audience what it already knows. It would also show that Han knows that Lando is dead because it exploded, so now he's concerned about Luke.

So it goes from Vader (sorry, Anakin) dies, Wedge flies out, Lando sacrifices himself, Han worried about Luke.