I just can't embrace it fully, but I also can't disregard it. There's a lot I love, but also a lot that angers me
It angers you? jeez, I hope you are simply overstating to drive your point home.
Sure there's stuff in the movie I really don't like but i can sit and enjoy it if I'm casually watching it. In the end it's just a movie. Not even the PT are among my all time favourite movies. But I like them enough to hang around a star wars forum.
looking over your points it seems that what interests you is the eye candy that holds no real plot relevance or substance. And I guess that all you 'hate' points could be rounded up and labeled as "they failed to deliver what they promised."
I would say i have a like/dislike relationship with the film, But that's about the extent of it.