Jay's a good guy, as I'm sure you all know. He felt that the other site was using unscrupulous means to broaden their base. boon and dayv altered the way they were contacting people, but it just wasn't enough. the damage was done. whatever happened behind "closed doors" between boon and jay is none of our concern. It seems all Jay wanted was a heads up.
On the other hand, Dayv is also a good guy. He felt censored on this site and handled it accordingly. Sure, the last few hours of posting between the two were heated, but would you have handled it any differently?
In the end, it all comes down to comfort and pride. Personally, I am very proud of being a small part of this site. It truly is a community where I have gained a few friendships that I feel will last long after this debacle is finished.