Superman is now, apparently, an insecure peeping tom who uses his x-ray vision and super hearing to eavesdrop on private conversations. Where's the guy with the strong moral compass and clear understanding of right and wrong? He already decided once that giving up his powers and abandoning mankind for a woman was a huge mistake. Now he's all conflicted about Lois having a life and is actively trying to steal her from another man. Hey kids, Superman never lies...but he'll hide in the bushes and watch your mom change into her nightie. He might as well be the creepy, unshaven Superman from Superman II.
Superman is not an emotionally damaged and traumatized individual. He's not driven to don a crazy outfit and help people because he witnessed his father's murder or was touched inappropriately as a boy. Superman is good personified, plain and simple. Both Jor-El's teachings and the Kents' traditional midwestern values inspired him to be a man of integrity who wants to lead humanity to a better place.
I really don't like what Singer has done with the character.
Superman: The Movie stomps all over SR without even breaking a sweat. Even the mangled Superman II is a better Superman movie. Can't wait to see the Donner cut later this year.
I still rank Superman: The Movie, Spider-Man 2, and Batman Begins as the best superhero movies of all time, and in that order.