i think you're right on the money. Since my little problem last April, I've developed a new mindset; don't even care what the girls think. Be confident, improve yourself, and have fun in life, and if a girl fits into your plan, but if not, fine. I'm not going to obssess about anyone because if they don't like me, it's their problem and not mine. This gets me a lot further than my old and whimpy attitude of, "Does she like me? What did that look mean? Oh, look- she walked past my table. Maybe that means that she's checking me out?".
It just hit me one day that the whole thing is too stupid to put that kind of effort into.