Oh, believe me, I very much know what you mean, Shim. But since this does involve Adam, and because of the nature of the conflict, I am trying to look at this through all different kinds of filters. Like, for example, if someone other than Adam had done something like this, would it have been taken as seriously? Since, Adam, and I'm trying to put this as delicately as possible, often evokes the wrath of many other posters here and has had a track record of getting himself in trouble, especially in these kinds of situations, the effect might be more extreme towards him than towards others, where it might simply be taken as a joke. And I'm not saying that attitude is necessarily wrong, based on his track record. But to use as a counter-example, what if the situation had been reversed, and HLF had been saying those things to Adam (completely hypothetical, so please no one get offended)? HLF also has a reputation of posting things of a sexual nature, but they are generally perceived in a much more comedic and much more acceptable light than the stuff that Adam posts. And, once again, I'm not going into the specifics of those posts, I'm simply stating what it is. So I'm prone to think that if HLF had been doing it, then people might have simply dismissed it. This is just speculation.

And, my other point, like I said in my previous point, is that it seems to me that females can get away with this kind of stuff more easily than males can. If a female talks flirtatiously, then it's perfectly fine, but if a male acts the same way, it suddenly becomes harrassment. And I really don't think that's fair.

The point of this post (if there is any) is not to point fingers at any poster (particularly not Adam or HLF, both of whom I've used as examples), or even to spread any type of influence. These are just the things I've been forced to think about today, and I figured I'd post some musings. Maybe encourage some people to think a bit outside the box. Hopefully. And hopefully, you can wade through all my disclaimers and backpeddling (used to keep anyone from being offended) and actually find something worth reading in this!