I just want to say thanks to MeBe and YIYF for their kinds words and support to my situation. And by all means post here when you feel like it. I'd gladly listen to you guys talk about marriage and the whatlike. After all, you guys have been single before, so you know this territory, whereas I don't really have anything to contribute to the married thread because I haven't yet been married.

I know that I gotta do what I gotta do. To put some more specifics as to why I can't... well, my mother seems to think that if I get married, I'll lose my scholarships. In actuality (although I didn't tell her as I didn't want her to think I was considering getting married), I did talk a person in my school's financial aid office who said that my federal scholarship money would actually increase a bit if I was married. Conversely, though, the loans that my fiancee has require her to be a depedent. And we've talked about just leaving everyone else out of the equation and eloping. But her parents still very much try to control her, and they offer all kinds of financial support to her, so I really don't want to jeopardize that by sneaking around behind their backs. Her dad would probably end up making her a widow if I did that. ^_~ I'm still a bit younger than you two were when you got married, so I still have plenty of time to get things together. And I know a perfect "ready" time will never come. But we'll just see.