Originally posted by: ricarleite
Now I totally understand you, starkiller. I am also like that, very reserved and all (having asperger's syndrom also contributes). I have never felt the necessity to date lots of women because I don't enjoy socializing with people I don't enjoy. I am very selective on my relationships, and most of those remain as friendships. I love my friends and I have no necessity to have sex with them, and we respect each others freedom and lifes, so...
So I totally understand those who don't actually go out and date and have this kinds of relationships, because that's not the important thing, that dosen't matter. What matters is what you feel right to you. And if by any chance you find someone you really want to have with you, you have the choice to marry that person, or not... You could live with that person and not legally marry.
What I enjoy about being single is the freedom it gives, but not between a husband and wife, but to myself. I can be by myself and isolate if I want to, and not feel guilty about it. Or, I could see whoever I want, and have the kind of relationship I wish. And yet, being married to someone you love is great, because you'll always have that person for you. Being single and being married are like two sides of a coin, like yin-yang... in a way...
Now I totally understand you, starkiller. I am also like that, very reserved and all (having asperger's syndrom also contributes). I have never felt the necessity to date lots of women because I don't enjoy socializing with people I don't enjoy. I am very selective on my relationships, and most of those remain as friendships. I love my friends and I have no necessity to have sex with them, and we respect each others freedom and lifes, so...
So I totally understand those who don't actually go out and date and have this kinds of relationships, because that's not the important thing, that dosen't matter. What matters is what you feel right to you. And if by any chance you find someone you really want to have with you, you have the choice to marry that person, or not... You could live with that person and not legally marry.
What I enjoy about being single is the freedom it gives, but not between a husband and wife, but to myself. I can be by myself and isolate if I want to, and not feel guilty about it. Or, I could see whoever I want, and have the kind of relationship I wish. And yet, being married to someone you love is great, because you'll always have that person for you. Being single and being married are like two sides of a coin, like yin-yang... in a way...
Exactly.