Originally posted by: Gaffer Tape
I'm practically 20, and I have been in a relationship with the same girl for nearly three years now. We became engaged a year ago, but we don't tell anybody about it for fear of disapproving parents finding out or people thinking that it's silly to do so at such a young age. Right now, it's college and money (or lack thereof) keeping us from getting married. Beyond that, I feel that I'm ready for marriage, as naive as that may sound, but I really do believe it. And I really do believe that she is the one. As far as it actually happening... I'm not sure when yet. Once the opportunity presents itself, I suppose. But like JediSage said in the married thread, I really don't feel I'd be missing out on anything if I got married early.
I'm practically 20, and I have been in a relationship with the same girl for nearly three years now. We became engaged a year ago, but we don't tell anybody about it for fear of disapproving parents finding out or people thinking that it's silly to do so at such a young age. Right now, it's college and money (or lack thereof) keeping us from getting married. Beyond that, I feel that I'm ready for marriage, as naive as that may sound, but I really do believe it. And I really do believe that she is the one. As far as it actually happening... I'm not sure when yet. Once the opportunity presents itself, I suppose. But like JediSage said in the married thread, I really don't feel I'd be missing out on anything if I got married early.
OK, I am married, so probably shouldn't be posting here, but I just wanted to offer my 2 cents to Gaffer:
I got married at 23, my wife was 22. She American, I'm English. We had known each other one year. We didn't tell anyone we were getting married, we didn't even really plan it mush. We just did it - We didn't have any money, no solid plans, no guests, no family, nothing. And it was great. Do what you gotta do man, that's my message. It's your life. I get ridicule now and again from people who don't get it or think I'm missing out. To those people I say it is YOU who is missing out.
Fortunately, my parents ended up being totally cool about it and we even ended up living with them for 6 months in London while we got on our feet (jobs, an apartment, etc). Almost 2 years on and it's a steep learning curve and I'm not gonna lie and say it's all making love in the hay and no worries, but I wouldn't change it for the world.
As for waiting till you're 'ready', be it financially or any other way, I don't think you're ver really 'ready', and you can waste a lot of time waiting until you reach this imaginary state of readiness. Having said that, if there are things you want to do/accomplish, you need to make sure your partner understands that and will support you and help you.
OK, I'm done. I will not pollute this thread with my married-ness any more.