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Post #174204

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ricarleite
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FOR THE SINGLE (or widowed or divorced) OTers
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Date created
29-Jan-2006, 6:20 PM
Now, as there was a thread for the married OTers to share their experiences with their loved ones (and yes, I belive even same sex should be included), I thought it would be good to have a thread for the other side, BUT... not limitting the posting for those who are not currently married, since opinions may come from all different sides.

What could be discussed here is, how do you see your life as a single person? Is it by choice, or by lack of oportunity? Do you prefer being single? Or maybe not? Have you been married before, and now has been set apart from your ex companion? What happened?

Also, I'd like to point out that many of the OTers here are underage and not yet in the age where a marriage would be acceptable, although those are still welcome to post and opinion, I'd rather have comments on those who are at the age of serious relationships, and are not married at this present moment.

First, let me start by letting my point of view out. I am single, and currently not dating or seeing anyone. I had a few "selective" relationships, which by one reason or another, didn't work out or didn't progress to the point where they would become more "serious". On the question of marrying, I am still unsure. While I'd be happy to share my life with someone who would make me complete, and that should work both ways too, I am content on being on my own for some reasons. Freedom is one of them, even though this is disputable, as married people do share a sense of freedom with responsibility between then (and I must say, I am not that much promiscuous in which it would make so much of a difference being married or not). There's also the whole budget thing, as I am unable to afford a decent life for a wife and child and yet able to live pretty well by my own standarts. In a shell, I can save money I would spend on other priorities, so I can spend on crap for myself. Yes, that's a bit selfish, but still... Also, I consider myself a bit imature to have a mariage-type relationship - and I mean that by the "emotional" side of being mature, not that I couldn't make a married life work.

So, uh... come on. Share your thoughts.