My wife and I also struggle to find time to do things together. Between my new job, the bar admission course, her new job (she's a teacher assistant dealing with special needs children), our kids and church responsibilities, there really isn't a whole lot of time left, and when we do have time, sometimes it's a fight before we find anything we'd like to do together. I'm a movie nut and love to go to the theatre to check out movies, whereas she would rather go out to dinner. I have no problem with doing both, but the trick is to find a movie we both like (if you look at our DVD collection, the split is about 60% mine, 30% kids and 10% my wife's). We make it work, though.