To me, grain is an artifact of the photographic process, like lens flare or motion blur. It should be retained, if possible, to provide a truer representation of what is on the film. This is epsecially true for photographers and directors that consciously use it for its artistic effect.
That being said, I've never bothered to play with a DVD player, TV, or computer program to try to make grain visible on something. I may try it and see what happens.