I think the line could be clearer, and it would solve most of those issues. Something like - “She knew you’d want to make the sacrifice play.”

I do agree that this goes a long way to solving Holdo’s character. She is on the older side, and it’s her job as a general to keep her soldiers safe and help them grow. So when she refers to Poe as “impulsive” and “dangerous” earlier, what she actually meant under this new context is that he is too interested in grand heroics that cost lives over thinking in the long term and being strategic - “the spark that will burn the First Order down”.

Ironically, this is basically what the movie is already trying to convey with Poe’s arc, but it isn’t able to convincingly tell the audience why Holdo withholding information is both a learning opportunity AND strategically relevant. The original movie is missing that final piece.

I think this also goes a long way to make Poe and Finn interlinked in their character journeys in this film, since Finn will attempt the sacrifice play himself on Crait. It’s a shame that Poe isn’t the one who crashes into Finn to save him, because that would bring things full circle as he imparts the lesson he learned on to his friend.