Something bad has happened to me recently, and I wanted to bitch about it, because I think that it’s not even my fault.
Basically, there’s a girl I started talking to a few months ago. I have met her online. As soon as we met, we immediately connected, and for a couple of months we texted each other every day and talked every day. We were really interested in each other. This girl comes from Turkey, while I come from Italy. But she told me that she would have moved to Italy next year with her family, because they wanted to leave Turkey and start to live in Italy. We even planned to meet once she came to live in Italy.
However, a couple of months ago she told me that she had to take some exams at university, as she studies medicine. Now, I’m a quite person who always tries to be kind. I don’t like to argue with other people if it’s not necessary. I’m a person who likes to leave their space to others, therefore, I thought that it would have been best not to text at all until the exams were finished. And so I did. I didn’t text her until her exams were finished. When her exams were finished, she texted me again, and she was not angry about the fact that I didn’t text her for the whole time. In fact, she studied a lot and she actually never had time to be online anyway, so she was not angry with me about that. Since she was not angry about that, I started to think that acting this way would have been better. That is, texting her exclusively when I knew that she was free, while trying to leave her alone when I knew that she was busy. This way - I thought - I wouldn’t have disturbed her when she was busy, and I would have done a good thing by giving her some personal space when she was doing something else.
After she finished her exams, we started to talk again for a couple of weeks. But after a couple of weeks she told me that she was going to visit her grandparents and her cousins, who live in Iraq. Since she would have been temporarily in another country and would have been with her family often, I thought it would have been best not to text her at all, so as to allow her to have free time with her family and give her some space. I thought it would have been best to wait until she returned from Iraq, and start to talk with her again exclusively after she returned. However, apparently she didn’t even bothered to tell me that she returned to Turkey in the first place. And since I didn’t know that she was back at home, then I didn’t know that she was available to talk again. Since I didn’t know that, I obviously didn’t text her for another month, being completely unaware of the fact that she was back. And during this month, she didn’t even remotely thought of texting me once, not even to say “Hi”, or something.
Giving that I didn’t text her (despite the fact she was back), she started to think that I don’t care about her anymore. Now she started to hate me, and told me that it was a mistake to be interested in me. She’s telling me that I’m a horrible person, that I don’t give a shit about her, and that she doesn’t want to talk with me anymore. But… Why? I mean, I was in good faith. She’s the one who didn’t even bother to tell me that she was back, so it’s not my fault if I didn’t text her. I simply didn’t know that she was available to talk again. I always tried to be super-kind, cute, available, mature, and not clingy. And despite this, now I’m forced to hear that I’m a horrible person who doesn’t give a shit about people and doesn’t know how to treat a girl.
I just hate this whole situation.
There’s nothing worse than a romantic partner who expects you to read her mind. Sorry about what happened there. I hope you find someone who isn’t gonna treat you that way.