I guess I just don’t understand Jedi pacifism. It’s okay to go around fighting with swords or killing clones/stormtroopers - and taking out an entire Death Star full of people gets one a rousing cheer and a soothing Obi Wan voiceover. But if you’re stuck alone in a room with the two most evil guys in the galaxy who are on a killing spree, apparently retaliatory aggression is a path to eternal darkness.
I loved the showdown in TROS. Firstly Rey was actually tempted with an impossible choice rather than being simply goaded into anger. Secondly her actions had a direct bearing on the battle. Thirdly she made the ultimate sacrifice - she died! You don’t get more selfless than that.