I had my third viewing a few days ago, and I’ve definitely made peace with it too. It’s not a bad film, but it’s got some really disappointing missed opportunities, even within the framework they chose.

To that end, what’s mostly been nagging me since my last viewing are some extremely easy minor things they could have changed that would have made the film better What mostly bothered me initially was Rey, but I’m real frustrated with the other characters as well…

Want to focus on the trio for the main adventure? Fine. Want Rose to anchor the Leia scenes? Fine. But you can still do this and have some semblance of respect for the character. Put her on the Falcon in the opening mission, and have her fixing it instead of random silly alien. Give her more to do in the final battle. Put her on one of the damn horses! Have her be the one that says Finn had a good teacher. Keep some continuity, dammit.
Along those lines, don’t forget ‘save what you love’! Finn learned an important lesson from Rose in TLJ. Have him convince Jannah and co. to join the fight rather than stay alone on the moon. At the end, instead of just blowing up the Star Destroyer bridge, have Finn and Jannah’s crew storm the bridge and initiate self destruct on the Destroyer. But instead of letting everyone die, they convince as many stormtroopers as they can to put down their weapons and escape.
The film sets up an interesting conflict, where the trio doesn’t really listen to each other and tell each other things, and ultimately this causes problems. Emphasize that Poe isn’t just cocky like usual, he’s bossy. He’s having a hard time with the ‘leader’ position, and realizes that the solution is to do it together (a payoff in the film without the proper set up). Have Finn explain to Poe what he was going to tell Rey - because he realizes the Force affects everyone, not just people like him, Rey, and Leia. At the end, when Finn needs to be saved, have Poe willingly delegate that job to Lando, rather than being told the Falcon is faster. He’s a leader now, he should be over trying to be the hero! We should actually see him lead!
To that end, the space battle is forgettable. An easy solution is to add just one show-stopping set piece like the superstructure scene from Jedi - my suggestion, have the Falcon coming to save Finn be a daring task where they have to dodge the falling destroyers.
Okay, one thing about Rey. The power to heal with the force should be something that Rey wasn’t taught, she just intuitively knows it. We find out this is the power of the force dyad, the power to heal, to save, to cheat death. This is why Palpatine is restored by them. At the end, Ben doesn’t die, and instead he departs to go around the galaxy ‘healing’ the wounds he helped to create, so to speak.

It’s stuff like this that make me really wish they had more time to make the film and iron out all the wrinkles.