Sure, sure, I can totally understand if you’re seeing a relation between something in the movies with your own experiences, I totally won’t argue you with that. Also sorry you’ve had to deal with that in the past.

The way I’ve seen Kylo and Rey’s relationship is that Kylo actually does care for Rey, he has compassion for her, but I think he still cares about himself and what he wants more. And if he hurt her in VIII, it wasn’t because he wanted to hurt her. I’ll admit in my own experiences, I have been the one to hurt people I cared about in the past because I was thinking about myself more than about them. It wasn’t what I wanted to do, but my choices made it happen regardless.

Anyway, I don’t know how it will be resolved in IX, but I think keeping an open mind and just letting JJ take us along for this last ride might be the best way to enjoy the experience. And definitely after the movie comes out, we’ll have to have another conversation about what happens!