Me, personally, I like Rey as a character.
After seeing an unlikable Anakin and a dull Obi-Wan in the prequels, Rey is a breath of fresh air.
She wants desperately to find her place, to belong, to find her parents.
She’s likable, charismatic, and funny.

I don’t have a problem with Rey specifically, but more just the overall writing of The Force Awakens.
I think it has less to do with Rey being a woman, and more to do with the fact that the producers just want to give fans the obligatory starship dog-fights and lightsaber battle.

Rey and Finn are able to skillfully outmaneuver the New Order’s starships, but also shoot down experienced fighter pilots. It’s “explained” merely with Rey and Finn themselves acting surprised. “Have you ever done that before?” “No!” “Me either!”

Then we have to have the obligatory lightsaber battle, even though Rey has had no Jedi training whatsoever.
So they just have her close her eyes right before the fight, so audiences can see her using the Force to download Jedi lightsaber dueling skills.

For me, it seemed rushed.
I didn’t have a problem with the writing for Rey in The Last Jedi. They explained her incredible connection the Force sufficiently enough.