I don’t know what I’m going to do to resolve this conflict between contributor and admin, but I know it’s something I need to address.
I don’t know the answer either but I’m glad to see it is something you are planning to figure out.
If running this site really is a drag on you maybe you need to have an admin team.
Running the site isn’t a drag, it’s the idea of only running it and not being able to participate in any meaningful way because people are afraid that I’m going to ban them if I don’t like their opinion.
It’s not a fair assessment of how I’ve run things in my opinion, but I acknowledge the fear.