Warbler, when multiple people say they feel you have a persecution complex, for you to effectively say “citation please” is to deny the accusation as patently false. I’ve already told you that you need to purpose to stop holding grudges, to which your response was not much more than a *shrug*.
People aren’t just saying you need to lighten up like it’s a thing to gang on Warbler or whatever. You genuinely honestly need to work on not taking things people say so seriously. Coming from me, speaking for myself, I am very much not picking on you when I say that.
that hurts.
The bottom line is, people don’t want to have to outline, ad nauseam, each and every instance by each and every user from whom you have ever felt picked on, nor discuss why each of those individually are or are not warranted. Calling us to do so will not get the response you seek because such a request, to be frank, is unreasonable. We have neither the time nor the inclination to pore over individual examples of what hurts your feelings, especially if it appears you are unwilling to take advice given into consideration.
You are responsible for your own life. You get to decide how you respond to those around you. Yes, they ought to be civil and polite, but when they aren’t that doesn’t absolve you of wrongdoing on your part, nor does the community at large want to listen to the ensuing back and forth.