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Post #1240372

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chyron8472
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The Place to Go for Emotional Support
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Date created
15-Sep-2018, 6:25 AM

Handman said:

chyron8472 said:

Don’t come on too strong. Seriously. Yes, talk to her, but don’t let your emotions or hormones or whatever run away with you.

How do you recommend I approach this situation?

I suggest being gentle about it, and letting her have the chance to respond. Like, if you’ve ever seen the movie Hitch, you come 90% of the way and let her come the last 10%. Give her the chance to show you some of her cards before you show all of yours. Dumping all of your feelings in her lap all at once has the potential to be overwhelming and maybe creepy.

You can lead the conversation, but let her follow. And… and I’m really serious about this, don’t take the relationship too fast even if your hormones want you to, because leaving mystery for later makes it better and more memorable. Going fast can be exhilarating on its own, but that feeling can disappear like a flash in a pan. You want a slow burn, not an explosion.