Random Thoughts — Page 756

DominicCobb said:

dahmage said:

DominicCobb said:

chyron8472 said:

Possessed said:

Basically just a joke on why the pizza chain (I think it’s called papa Murphys?) is so popular when they don’t even cook your pizza for you. They just make you a custom frozen one (I have heard it’s actually pretty good though). The joke is basically just a callback to the time there was a pages long debate on the legitimacy of such a practice.

The Papa Murphy’s near my house went out of business. Went over there one day to get a pizza and the whole store was gutted with the sign missing.

I guess it wasn’t popular enough.

The place was gutted? So that’s why there was no oven?

.5/10

Fair

😃

Rip-snorting good fun, to be sure.

I’m going to the visitation after work today of the husband of one of my coworkers who spent about 40 years not feeling that way.

Divorce isn’t “giving up.” If one’s marriage isn’t working, there’s no good reason to stay to together and be miserable (unless there’s kids involved, but even then there’s a point at which it’d be worse to stay together).

If you got married without knowing you loved each other then you’re stupid. If you’re the type of person who can fall out of love with a person without them doing anything or any outside event happening then marriage as a concept just isn’t for you. If you get divorced simply because “you don’t love each other anymore” then you either rushed into the marriage without thinking it through, marriage in general isn’t for you, or you’re giving up.

Possessed said:

If you got married without knowing you loved each other then you’re stupid. If you’re the type of person who can fall out of love with a person without them doing anything or any outside event happening then marriage as a concept just isn’t for you. If you get divorced simply because “you don’t love each other anymore” then you either rushed into the marriage without thinking it through, marriage in general isn’t for you, or you’re giving up.

Those are some pretty naive generalizations, honestly. And I don’t even disagree for many cases. But still, you’re generalizing. People are more complicated than that. Our societal conceptions of how “love” work are largely bullshit.

When people get married they make a promise to each other. If they both mutually agree it’s not working, then there’s pretty much no reason to keep the promise just for the sake of it. I don’t see how wasting years on a relationship that doesn’t work is preferable to admitting you made a mistake.

Not to mention the whole ~sacred vow~ business is really quite silly. There’s no way to predict the future. Years go on and people change. It’s only natural. The whole “forever” expectation is dumb, if you ask me. There’s no way to know for sure what will happen between now and eternity. Trying to stay true to your word just sounds like trying to prove you’re right, which isn’t necessarily the basis of a good relationship.

As for what “getting married actually means,” I think you’ll find there’s a lot of different definitions floating around. One could even say it depends on what it means to those getting married? Not everyone considers it a holy pact, and there are many practical reasons one might decide to form such a union.

and there are many practical reasons one might decide to form such a union.

The tax breaks?

Daisy Ridley should appear in horror films. She has the perfect face to play crazy psycho bitches.

Handman said:

and there are many practical reasons one might decide to form such a union.

The tax breaks?

That’s part of it sure, but there are plenty of benefits, from big things like health coverage, to things you’d never think of like dry cleaning discounts (if Seinfeld is to be believed).

moviefreakedmind said:

The only fun part about weddings is thinking about how meaningless all those sappy, lovey-dovey vows will be in four years when the bride and groom get divorced.

That man could depress a hyena.

I’m gonna have to side with chyron on this one.

chyron8472 said:

DominicCobb said:

Handman said:

and there are many practical reasons one might decide to form such a union.

The tax breaks?

That’s part of it sure, but there are plenty of benefits, from big things like health coverage, to things you’d never think of like dry cleaning discounts (if Seinfeld is to be believed).

Being in a relationship merely for financial discounts… what an emotionally hollow, unfulfilling farce. Might as well change one’s vows from “til death do us part” to “until my field of fucks runs out.”

Ridiculous.

I never said merely, though it is a fairly important and practical reason for getting married, much moreso than just to form an imaginary pact (which also ‘forces’ you to stay with someone you could end up hating, only because you don’t want to embarrass yourself to your friends and family).

If not for the legal benefits, I’d think marriage to be a nearly pointless and archaic construct. But that’s just me. My point is that marriage can be different things to different people. Just because you see it one way doesn’t mean every else does, nor should they conform their lives to what is ultimately just your opinion of it.

I wasn’t saying that anyone who gets a divorce just because “it’s not working out” is a bad person, I was only saying that the concept of marriage in general probably isn’t for them.

Mrebo said:

chyron’s got it right.

I agree.

Possessed said:

I wasn’t saying that anyone who gets a divorce just because “it’s not working out” is a bad person, I was only saying that the concept of marriage in general probably isn’t for them.

I’ll just reiterate my point, marriage as a “concept” isn’t as strictly defined as you make it out to be, nor should it be. I know you’re not saying they’re bad people, but many judge those who get divorced harshly, simply because they don’t hold the same narrow definition of marriage as they do. No one should have their relationship be judged on someone else’s rigid terms.

I’ve never encountered anyone who has judged someone harshly for a divorce, unless they were the cause (infidelity etc.). It’s something to feel bad about, because it is a failure, no way around that. But failure is what makes us stronger and wiser.