I do think they dumbed down the men rather than lifted up the women
I thought the issue was that they’d “lifted up the women” too much? (see all the idiotic mary-sue nonsense)
Rey is a Mary Sue. That’s my take. She fits the definition. I’m not rehashing the reasons why, or why the term “Mary Sue” isn’t sexist (see the Culture, politics, and diversity in Star Wars thread if you want to wade into that pool).
I haven’t seen too many TLJ critics complain about the women being lifted up, which is obviously sexist. The problem is that they’re not great characters and their representation as powerful women having agency is mostly at the expense of the men, who are written as dumb, selfish, or impulsive. Writing better female characters would’ve been preferable.