I have an ongoing discussion with someone close to me about other people in their life not acting/responding as they would like. I agree those other people can be unreasonable but I stress that we can’t just make people act as we would like them. We can try, and in many situations should, but at the end of the day one can only control oneself. To avoid unhappy interactions that can mean changing one’s own behavior and how one communicates with others. I understand the anger and belief that others should change, but that’s a foolhardy way to go through life.

Most people do make adjustments, limit their own freedom. Not saying it’s good, just is.

Talking about causes allows one to avoid risk. Doesn’t mean anything else.

The anger that anyone would feel entitled to harass or assault someone because they look good is obvious. The idea that makeup is some kind of trigger should seem absurd to right-thinking people. Obviously we take steps to educate/punish. But the ugly reality is there and willful ignorance about it does not help.