Frink, parents can mess up in ways that hurt families in a way siblings generally don’t.
And siblings can mess up in ways that hurt families in a way that parents didn’t.
I’m sorry for your situation but “I can’t imagine how a sibling could be so problematic” is a pretty limited worldview.
If you had just said “my siblings” instead of “siblings” I wouldn’t have said anything.
To be fair, my phrasing was overbroad, but at least in this case I think my intuition was not inaccurate. And I’m fine - to the extent relatives want to behave properly and have a relationship, I’m willing to accept them.
The blue elephant in the room.
Cherish your family, you’ve only got one.
Not all family is worth cherishing.
Yeah I know. It just hit close to home for some reason at that particular moment and I said something dumb. The familial bond, particularly between siblings has always been important to me for some reason.
It’s best not to care about siblings. All it does is upset you when all they do is fail to live up to expectations.
This is really hideous advice. My siblings are some of the only people I like. In fact, one of my siblings took care of me and for a short time practically raised me when I was a little boy even though she was still just a kid herself. I know not all siblings are great, and some are horrible, but I find it kind of disturbing to only value people based on their ability to meet expectations. I don’t think anybody is, or should be, obligated to meet anybody’s expectations. I know I shouldn’t be talking since I’m mean and misanthropic, but that phrasing and the idea of disregarding family because they might fail your expectations is just extreme. I know that I’m a horrible pile of garbage and say horrible things about the human race on an hourly basis, so I’m not trying to be judgmental or a hypocrite, but I’d urge you to not think that way anymore because it doesn’t sound very happy.
The Person in Question
Nice to agree with ya, mfm.
The blue elephant in the room.
They want nothing to do with me, so whatever.
They want nothing to do with me, so whatever.
Ok, just phrase it that it applies to you and not everyone else.
A couple of my siblings (I have quite a few) are among the only people to ever display affection towards me. It saddens me when people don’t like their siblings.
The Person in Question
my sister is a certified piece of shit AMA
How old is she?
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That’s awesome.
The Person in Question
my sister is a certified piece of shit AMA
How old is she?
18, same as myself. Triplets.
now there’s three of them?
Are you all members of the American Medical Association?
That’s awesome.
Thanks.
my sister is a certified piece of shit AMA
How old is she?
18, same as myself. Triplets.
now there’s three of them?
I assure you, we are nothing alike. My brother is usually pretty all right though. Also, the two of them are the only people I know that are uglier than me 😛
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I always wished I had a twin or triplet siblings.
The Person in Question
I always wished I had a twin or triplet siblings.
I always wished I had twin dads but then I remember Paul Riser was the evil twin and also they weren’t twins.
Are you all members of the American Medical Association?
We’re all trained in CPR and first aid for lifeguarding but I don’t think we’re members of anything.
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I always wished I had a twin or triplet siblings.
I’m an only child and I’ve always wished I had an older sister. Probably why I’ve filled that role with quite a few platonic friendships made of slightly older than me women.
My older sister is my favorite person on the planet, by far.
The Person in Question
My older sister is my favorite person on the planet, by far.
My older sister and I are friendly, but I do not count her as a “friend”. A close acquaintance, maybe. She watches my kiddo sometimes, and we can have a reasonable conversation about random things (in a group, say at a family party). However, she and I don’t have any similar interests but one, never hang out for any particular reason, and we don’t seek out each other’s opinion on really anything.
chyron just put a big Ric pic in your sig and be done with it.
my sister is a certified piece of shit AMA
How old is she?
18, same as myself. Triplets.
Triplets, wow.
Anyway, 18 is a good answer. As much as I disagree with Mrebo framing his experience as worse and therefore more legitimate than yours, I will say if you have a shit parent, the chances of them changing and becoming not shitty is very low, whereas with a sibling (especially someone who’s only now entering adulthood), there’s still a lot of time for them to grow and become less of a shit.
Dom, I said nothing of the sort. I don’t think my experience, so to speak, was that bad. I raised it to show a common experience of feeling a need to cut someone out. My opinion on the differing nature of siblings and parents was of the same cloth as yours.
The blue elephant in the room.
Just seemed like you were rejecting his perspective and experience based on yours. If not, I take it back of course, just saying that’s how it read.
My older sister is my favorite person on the planet, by far.
My older sister and I are friendly, but I do not count her as a “friend”. A close acquaintance, maybe. She watches my kiddo sometimes, and we can have a reasonable conversation about random things (in a group, say at a family party). However, she and I don’t have any similar interests but one, never hang out for any particular reason, and we don’t seek out each other’s opinion on really anything.
You let close acquaintances watch your kiddo?
The Person in Question
My older sister is my favorite person on the planet, by far.
My older sister and I are friendly, but I do not count her as a “friend”. A close acquaintance, maybe. She watches my kiddo sometimes, and we can have a reasonable conversation about random things (in a group, say at a family party). However, she and I don’t have any similar interests but one, never hang out for any particular reason, and we don’t seek out each other’s opinion on really anything.
You let close acquaintances watch your kiddo?
Maybe he only considers his kid to be a close acquaintance.
I would put this in my sig if I weren’t so lazy.
My older sister is my favorite person on the planet, by far.
My older sister and I are friendly, but I do not count her as a “friend”. A close acquaintance, maybe. She watches my kiddo sometimes, and we can have a reasonable conversation about random things (in a group, say at a family party). However, she and I don’t have any similar interests but one, never hang out for any particular reason, and we don’t seek out each other’s opinion on really anything.
You let close acquaintances watch your kiddo?
My kiddo is not that hard to babysit. And when I go to church, the people watching the kids there are often acquaintances at best. Plus, I’m not paranoid. So yes.
chyron just put a big Ric pic in your sig and be done with it.