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I do know people who have known serious abuse, neglect, et al. And they have shared how God has helped them and blessed them. God does not say that there will not be trouble in this life. He says He is with us through the trouble. It’s more than just comfort. It’s more than “been good to me.”
Why not them? I don’t know. Ask Him. I can’t answer that. But I also know that what they’re going through and how He can help them is between them and Him.
JEDIT:
really understanding God is beyond our capacity. But that doesn’t mean we can’t have a basic (and necessarily flawed) understanding that does us some good.
I do also agree with this. I do believe that I am wholly incapable to fully understand God. But I also believe that I understand some part of Him; that I can have a relationship based on that understanding; and that as I grow in that relationship, that understanding will grow and continue to shape itself.