The thing about online dating is it’s mostly losers, sprinkled in with a few random people who are perfectly fine but are either down on their luck or in an area that’s hard to meet people or are just having trouble making the time to meet people. But then those people will try it only to find that most everybody else on there… Well sucks. Then when they find a profile of a Decent person on there it’s usually abandoned because they gave up also. So then you give up. Some people get lucky and it works, but I honestly have had better luck in the past (when i didn’t already know who I wanted) messaging girls I was “friends with” on Facebook based on their profiles and if they seemed like a good person and maybe we had a few shared interests. It’s a lot less pressure that way. That way you have references, they can look at your page and see how you interact with family and friends etc