Pretty sure everybody’s ignoring me again. I’m growing tired of them.
I had thoughts like this about my only two close IRL friends around November/December (I think I even posted about it here a little). Turned out that one was working, like, 6 weeks worth of 12-hour night shifts and the other had just started dating someone new and was nervous about me meeting the guy given our history (well…my history of reacting badly to things like that given my feelings toward her).
Point is, while it’s certainly possible that you’re right, it’s also very possible that they just have other shit going on that’s taking priority. God knows I’m shit at keeping in touch with people when I’ve got “more important things” happening.
Try not to focus on the negative possibility. But in the meantime, also try and put yourself out there and meet some new people, just in case the negative possibility ends up being the truth. And even if it doesn’t, then hey, maybe you meet a new friend to add to the group!
I say this with nothing but love and understanding, and this is coming from my own experiences that I’ve had over and over again, I recommend you abandon your friendship with someone that you have romantic feelings for that aren’t mutual. I know it’s hard, I know it hurts, and I know it feels terrible, but you’ll have to eventually.
I understand where you’re coming from, and it’s highly likely you’re right, but it’s not like it’s a secret between us, and since we’ve been able to talk about it openly without things becoming weird in recent months (instead of me thinking I’m keeping it hidden when I so clearly was unsuccessful), I’m actually way more comfortable with the situation then I thought I could be.
But I am prepared for it to become unsustainable and am willing to walk away if it comes to that. Which is something we have talked with one another about, too.
But thank you for your concern. I’m totally being hypocritical too, since I’d absolutely be giving the same advice if it wasn’t me.