Story time!
any time I’ve questioned it or even just not spoken in a tone that sounded convincingly enthusiastic or reverent, he gets pissed at me for “disrespecting God.”
God is not so shallow and predictable as all that. I would say fitting God into a nice comfortable box is disrespectful. He doesn’t care about liturgy for liturgy’s sake. If it means nothing to you, there’s no point in doing it. It’s important to have a relationship with God, but your relationship is yours. Not your Dad’s.
Not all the parts of the Body of Christ perform the same functions or can even adequately understand the value of the other parts. If liturgy means something to your Dad, that’s one thing, but if it means nothing to you, that doesn’t mean your relationship with God is flawed. It’s just different than your Dad’s.