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The Place to Go for Emotional Support
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12-Jan-2018, 1:01 AM

suspiciouscoffee said:

Hi again. I’d like to thank everyone for the well wishes, and return such wishes, especially to Bingo right now.

Some new developments have come up recently with Phil, which is not his name, but what I will call him for the remainder of this post. I came out to Phil a couple of days ago. Crush notwithstanding, we’ve been good friends for a while and I figured it was okay to tell him. He said he already suspected for a while, which struck me as odd, as all my other irl friends who are currently in-the-know seemed to be surprised by my coming-out. Phil went on to say that he had-and I promise, I’m not making this up-been analyzing my sense of humor for months and reached the conclusion that I wasn’t straight. The next day, I apologized for coming out (I apologize for everything regardless of whether I have any reason to, it’s a thing). He replied by saying, “no, no, this is good!” and gave me a surprisingly enthusiastic smile and thumbs up.

He never said anything about his own sexuality, though. Maybe I’m looking too hard into this out of desperation, but straight guys don’t tend to analyze their bros’ sexuality, right? That isn’t exactly a “no homo” thing to do. Also, a mutual friend told me Phil’s never seemed interested in girls, and they’ve known each other years longer than I have.

So now I just… ¯\ _(ツ)_/¯

I do not know what kind of advice I could give you coffee, but I really hope for the best. What I can tell you is that several friends of mine turned out to be gay, and I had absolutely no idea that they were before they told me. Speaking for myself, it’s not something I find noticeable or particularly try to notice on purpose.