It really doesn’t take that much effort.
Kinda is when you have no confidence whatsoever when it comes to women. Seriously, most people I hang out with say that I’m a lot of things, but I’m not boring, but whenever I’m around girls I’m so nervous about appearing to be an asshole that I just become a hollow boring shell of myself, which leads to me having quite a few girl friends, but no girlfriends.
I have no confidence and have a very low opinion of myself but when I was about 15 or so I decided that I really didn’t like most people. I don’t say that to be a grouchy misanthrope, that’s just how I started thinking about others. So even though I have no self-esteem, I learned then not to care about how I appear to others. Why should I care about how people judge me for being myself since they probably suck just as much I do? And I’ve had several relationships since then. Most them lasting over a whole month! My point is, I’m horrible with people and am horrible with relationships and am horrible at everything, but take my word for it, it isn’t that hard.
JEDIT: This was a stupid, boring and sappy post, but I’ll leave it up anyway.