I wish to make clear that the reason I don’t offer all that much advice in here is because a lot of the problems here seem beyond my ability to find solutions. So I don’t offer any advice, in the thinking that no advice is better than bad advice.
I’d like to echo this and also say that sometimes I get to this thread after 2-3 replies have already been made that all add up to pretty much what I would have said anyway. Just because I don’t reply to a particular post doesn’t mean I don’t care - I do, and if anyone is having a rough time and wants to talk to someone one on one, you can PM me any time.