This isn’t about defending my damaged ego, this is about fairness. It is not fair assume guilty due to group.
I think some part of your ego is hurt. Why are you defending this so voraciously?
Is this a fallacy of some sort? I see it all the time, and it’s a line of argument that goes no where.
Men should of course listen to what women have to say, but this doesn’t mean we shouldn’t defend ourselves when attacked.
Let’s say that men were, in some way, unprivileged in some way. Would you appreciate a woman going “well, actually” to you and undermining your points? No. In this theoretical situation, it’s the women’s place to listen, not talk.
If the man said something along the lines of “women are privileged,” or said that women have no problems, then yes, I would support her doing that. But what this really is, is a way of shutting down arguments. Someone₁ can claim that men are privileged, and when someone₂ tells them₁ that men get longer sentences, are the victims of anti-gay hate crimes more often, are the majority of the homeless, and are victims of homicide more often, they₁ can just accuse the other person₂ of mansplaining and derailing.
Every group of people is disadvantaged in one way or another, in this world. That is the human condition. Rather than focusing on one and pretending another doesn’t exist, why don’t we work on all of them?