Well this is the first time it’s ever really caused problems. It’s not like we’re having sex, and even if we did other than those two nights out of three years she’s been an absolutely amazing friend and I’m not going to throw the relationship away just because she’s 40. While there may be some level of sexual attraction between us, she’s really more of a big sister. (As creepy as it is to say those two things back to back like that, but we’re not related)
Well I obviously don’t know the whole picture so I’m not trying to suggest you do anything beyond consider the worth of the relationship. It seems like in many ways it’s been a cause of stress and depression for you, before this incident even. If you think the benefits out weigh the costs then that’s perfectly okay but you need to ask yourself the question.
This isn’t the same person I was upset over several years ago if your referring to my heartbreak over an older woman several years ago that I’m sure I talked about here.