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Post #1054055

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Bingowings
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The Place to Go for Emotional Support
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Date created
9-Mar-2017, 1:35 AM

darthrush said:

Tyrphanax said:

darthrush said:

I had been really into a girl for about a month. We went out a lot of dates and we really liked each other. Eventually she started having some family issues and started getting some really awful depression. I could tell her life was spiraling out of control. She talked to a therapist and decided it is best for her to not have a relationship with anyone right now. The saddest thing is that I completely understand and this is the right thing for her to do but I really liked her a lot. This hurt a lot 😦 I feel really hopeless and depressed

Try to take comfort in the fact that she’s doing what she feels is best for her right now. Respecting her and her choices is a great thing to do, and maybe when she’s feeling better you guys can rekindle something.

Breakups are tough, so just hang in there and try to find some joy in a hobby or school or work or whatever you get up to. Take the time to find yourself a bit.

Thank you so much for the advice! Sad thing is that she is also planning on moving to California for the summer, and if she likes it there (she probably will), then she would move there permanently. So it will not work out period. It is quite a rough truth to accept.

Send her a card saying you understand the decision and respect her wishes. But remind her that you remain her friend and can be called upon if needed. When this sort of thing happens feeling that you have burned bridges can be a burden in of itself. Giving the power to her to call on you if she needs to may be of benefit further down the road. But respect those boundaries and try your best to get on with things yourself. All the best.