My birthday was a few months ago. I had only a small family dinner. I invited my best female friend to it, and she happily came. Even brought her mother and daughter. It was fine.

Her birthday was last week. Haven’t talked to her all week at all. Then I find out she had a huge fucking party with even a rented party bus and she never so much as mentioned that this was happening and from what I can tell invited pretty much everyone but me. Before I found out I texted her to tell her happy birthdayand deliver the Amazon egift card I bought her. Ignored entirely. On it’s own that wouldn’t have been a big deal because she’s 40 now and didn’t text very much and probably was slightly bombarded with them that day. But together it stings. The fact that she was important enough to me to come to a family dinner but I’m not important enough for a fucking party bus is beyond hurtful. I don’t know what the explanation is for that, maybe it was an all girls type thing that she never thought I would find out about, (which I would accept), but until I get one I get one I’m going to treat her like she doesn’t exist since I apparently stopped existing about a month ago. I’m not planning on asking about it, because if there is an innocent explanation me having asked about it would just needlessly get me in"trouble". So I’ll just see if she brings it up next time I see her.

Bit of background, we’ve been friends for several years so it’s not as if we were just having a fling that just sortof fizzled out.